How Women Can Empower Their Relationships

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Nations once fought fierce battles in the name of something: peace, freedom, or religious tolerance. Wars were power struggles with passionate crusaders on both sides; relationships feel like that at times.

For many couples, discussing relationship roles may cause conflict. Some men still hold firmly to the idea of being breadwinners, refusing to embrace women with opinions and strong wills. The world still packages us as “mothers of civilization,” historically held to a standard of creating domestic bliss for every man like we’re their mamas. Forget the traditional servant paradigm, which is insulting and unbelievable. We are multifaceted thinkers and doers. The modern, westernized woman is a touted phenomenon who has proven capable to successfully adapt, straddling the worlds of career and home with ease (she can buy and fry the bacon in no time.)

So how do women bring the fight for independence to their relationships?  Consider this historical lesson: finding peace and love sometimes require new tactics. For women, it starts with self-love.

Find Inner Peace: By finding harmony, women are better equipped to promote successful co-habituation. Women’s relationships grow and thrive on unconditional love. We give to receive love, but that love must start with our love of self. Having said that, surrender some things, but never compromise principles.

Be Yoked only with a Man Who Shares Our Dreams: After discovering an enlightened man, I usually challenge him with a new tactic: several “interview-style” dates. Successful business women use their acumen and judgment in closing deals, so why not apply that to picking a mate. What are your relationship requisites? How does a man capture your heart? Is he a compatible choice? For me, a man must encourage my dreams.

Define a Man’s Role in Your Life: Think about this: men ask their future brides about their requirements for marriage in some traditional settings. Women must also know exactly what they’re looking for in a mate, and what role such a mate is going to play in her life. Seek a considerate partner who can enhance – not complete – your life.

Rid Yourself of One-Dimensional Labels: Cook, homemaker, etc. only put limitations on a woman’s full range of talents and usefulness. Yes, we take care of the family and household, but those roles should not be used to minimalize a woman’s power. Playing them can become a duty-bound routine, robbing a woman of her ability to demonstrate love in dynamic ways. Looking after home is just one way we show love. Women have so many other skills and methods for caring.

Relationships are the ultimate collaborations, with two parts working together as a whole. As ever-evolving beings, we must remain true to ourselves. Self-love and self-discovery can help us find the right counterparts, so we can dedicate our whole self to loving them deep, hard and unconditionally.

About the Writer

Since graduating from Syracuse University in 2009, Clarissa Hamlin’s has been on a mission to inspire and empower the world through her writing. She was formerly a reporter for the Valley Stream Herald and Lynbrook/East Rockaway Herald in Long Island, NY. She later went on to become a contributing writer for UPTOWN and GALO (Global Arts Laid Out) Magazines. Clarissa feels grateful to God for her new gig as a contributing columnist for Afrikan Goddess Magazine. She hope to direct her energy towards impassioned articles about the stories and stellar paragons that are African women. She joins Afrikan Goddess in “celebrating the beauty, grace and radiance” of women everywhere, especially women of African descent.

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Clarissa Hamlin, Contributor

Clarissa Hamlin, Contributor

Since graduating from Syracuse University in 2009, Clarissa Hamlin’s has been on a mission to inspire and empower the world through her writing. She was formerly a reporter for the Valley Stream Herald and Lynbrook/East Rockaway Herald in Long Island, NY. She later went on to become a contributing writer for UPTOWN and GALO (Global Arts Laid Out) Magazines. Clarissa feels grateful to God for her new gig as a contributing columnist for Afrikan Goddess Magazine. She hope to direct her energy towards impassioned articles about the stories and stellar paragons that are African women. She joins Afrikan Goddess in "celebrating the beauty, grace and radiance” of women everywhere, especially women of African descent.

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